Life or Death


“I need to tell you something very important.” Her tiny toddler hands held my face in order to make eye contact. “You are very beautiful.”

Her words were truth, though I didn’t feel it in the moment. At the time, I had not showered, was still in my pajamas, and likely had baby drool or spit up in my hair. Her words were powerful because she was reminding me what our Father says about his daughters. She was doing this because her daddy had done exactly the same with her.

From time to time, in the quiet moments, my husband and I will grab our girls tight and speak words of life over them.

  • “You are beautiful.”
  • “You are such a precious gift from God.”
  • “I am so thankful to have you in my life.”
  • “You are a leader.”
  • “I can’t wait to see you walk into the amazing plans God has for your life.”

Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Too often, in our culture, the trend is death. Our church has these things called LIFE Groups, and an entire week of the curriculum is devoted to the concept of the power of our words. In my book, I have underlined the phrase, “Our words can either tear others down or build them up with encouragement.”

Oh friends, how I long for us to build each other up. Is it so important to be right that we neglect the needs of our sisters? I have yet to meet a mom who was not concerned about whether she was making the right decisions for her family…and oh how many decisions there are to make. Too often we get so caught up in things like co-sleeping vs letting our babies cry, that we fail to encourage each other in the decisions we have made and in the hard times that we are living.

My husband and I have decided that speaking words of life is one of the things we want to fight for in our home. He is much better at it than I am! To remind us of this commitment we have placed this sign in the busiest room of our home:


I wish I could say that I get it right all the time, but I don’t. This is going to be a life-long choice day after day, but in the end, it is so much more fulfilling to let our words bring a smile to someone’s face.

So, I need you to know a few things. Look me in the eyes and believe me when I say:

  • “You are beautiful.”
  • “You are such a precious gift from God.”
  • “I am so thankful to have you in my life.”
  • “You are a leader.”
  • “I can’t wait to see you walk into the amazing plans God has for your life.”

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29, NIV)


8 thoughts on “Life or Death

  1. Pat says:

    Thank you Amanda for your words of encouragement. As I have aged, I struggle with weight gain, gray hair and of course those dreaded wrinkles that I do not feel beautiful. Your words made me realize that with every gray hair and wrinkle comes something God has used my life for HIS GOOD and to carry out HIS PLAN for my life!


    • Amanda says:

      I love that! I think we all struggle with body image in some way, but it helps to remember that our Creator calls us beautiful. Thank you for sharing!


  2. RivkaBelle says:

    I saw the link posted last week, and just now got a chance to read … and how desperately I needed to hear that today ❤
    And you, also, are so beautiful and such a blessing.


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